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DJ Life

Detroit DJThe soundtrack to our life is played at the bar or club as we laugh with friends, make new friends, flirt, create memories.  More often than not it’s being choreographed by a DJ.  I never really paid much attention to the DJs until the last few years as I got more DJ’s as clients.

Doing their Public Relations has been very eye opening.  There are the really good career DJ’s like Godfather, Captn20, and DJ Dock.  There are the really bad ones who play their MP3 players, that only use their laptops, and those who have no knowledge of equipment and blow the sound system.

DJ’s all have different equipment, different software, different lighting and they will all defend how they do it as the right way til their death.  That stuff doesn’t make a difference to me.  I used to not even pay attention to the music except as background to whatever I was doing.  Now that I pay attention to the DJ’s I love when a DJ can take a familiar song and make it something new.  I love when they mix two songs I never would have thought of, or when they surprise me with something new.

A great DJ has to appeal to a whole room full of people and keep the energy up and vibrant.  As anyone who has ever had a road trip with someone else knows, finding music to appeal to everyone is impossible sometimes, so I appreciate when a DJ can keep a dance floor going and people happy.

That brings me to my new life lesson.  Don’t ask for a song request!  These DJ’s spend hours downloading music, creating music, listening to music and creating play lists for different venues and events.  They know their music, they know their bar/club/crowd, they have a job to do and it’s not to be a jukebox.

These guys and gals have to get people dancing and drinking and enjoying the party.  Once its finally in swing one bad song can end the night.  Your request for Barbie Girl isn’t going to do anything for the night, yet you waltzed your 6in leopard print peep toe shoe’d ass up to the Dj booth and made your request.  The DJ knows that song will kill the room, yet he has your drunk happy open cleavaged  self standing there demanding that one song that made you laugh 5 years ago.  He has to weigh offending you and ruining your night or ending a party for 300-600 people.  My advice, JUST LET THEM RUN THE NIGHT.  It’s their job.  You can turn your song on in your car on the way home or the way there.  Unless it’s your wedding and you tell your DJ what to play leave him alone!

My list of DJ etiquette.

1.  Don’t request a song.  You and maybe one friend are the only ones who want to hear it, the REST of the bar does not.

2.  Don’t tell your DJ anyone can DJ and she just pushes play.  If that’s all she is doing she shouldn’t be a DJ.

3.  Don’t set your drink down on the DJ table.  That equipment is expensive!  Would you put a beer on your laptop?

4. Don’t hire a DJ and expect the DJ to do your promotions.  A DJ provides entertainment to your guests, a promoter brings in the bodies.  Don’t be cheap!

5. Don’t tell the DJ you know the owner and you spend a lot of money in there.  Yeah, you are the only one.  All those other people have never been in here and they aren’t buying drinks and food also.  When you own the bar then come talk to the DJ.

6. Don’t tell the DJ, “Nobody wants to hear this song.”  (Except the person who requested it).  Like you did a poll with everyone in the bar.  Go back and sit with your drunk friends.

7.  Sometimes the promoter or bar owner has a theme for the night and they dictate what type of music is played.  You can request a song (although I recommend you sit your little butt down and don’t bother the DJ unless its to give a compliment, tip them, flash them or offer them a job), but be understanding if the DJ can’t accommodate it.  It’s not always up to the DJ.

8.  When you talk to the DJ it’s loud, there are people, the DJ is mixing or cuing up the next song.  Usually they can’t hear you.  Don’t take it personally, they are busy and it’s LOUD.  Deal with it.

9.  No you cannot charge your phone in the DJ booth.  Be responsible and handle it on your own or God forbid enjoy the night without Facebooking every second of it.

10.  Most important of all… they are WORKING.  This is their job and they are doing their job.  When someone calls you at your work don’t you sometimes have to put them on hold or call them back?  Let them do their job!  Smile, dance, show some love.  have fun.  It’s a night out and life is good.  It’s not the end of the night if you can’t get that one song right then.


Movies I Find Motivating

A million people find inspiration from the scene in Rocky when Sylvester Stone climbs to the top of the steps and thrusts is arms in the air.  It was moving and his hard work moved us.  It was OK for me, but moments like that really move people.  While scrolling through the TV guide yesterday I saw one of my favorite cheesy movies that I watch over and over, The Secret of My Success.  I, of course, recorded it as it always amuses me and motivates me.

As I was watching it tonight I started thinking about which movies really motivate me and why.  I decided to share my list with you.  Here is my list off the top of my head.  Which movies motivate and inspire you?


The Secret of My Success (1987)

Starring Michael J. Fox, Helen Slater, Richard Jordan, and John Pankow

Fox is a young go getter who heads to his first job in NYC after college to find he has no job.  Not only does he find a job, but works hard and thrives.  A little office romance and comedy thrown in too.

I know it’s not as easy as the movie makes it, but they show him working hard.  Late nights reading, working two jobs, networking, and making friends. He does it all correctly even for a movie.

Born Yesterday (1993)

Starring Melanie Griffith, John Goodman, Don Johnson

This is a remake of the 1950 movie of the same name starring Judy Holliday, William Holden,  and Broderick Crawford.  A wealthy tycoon (Goodman) goes to Washington on business and finds his girlfriend (Griffith) is a social embarrassment.  He hires a reporter (Johnson) to smarten her up.

What I love about this movie is that after not having an interest in the education as she learns little by little she embraces learning.  She is reading, looking things up, having discussions.  The fact that she can go from not knowing much of anything to opening up a whole new world is wonderful to me.  I certainly don’t know everything contrary to my webpage, but I do know how to look things up and ask.  I have it in me to learn anything I want to learn.  My ambition is to learn a new language, know all the presidents, and learn how to build a car from scratch.  My true searches are usually more like, “What’s this rash?” “How to write the best press release”  “Which colors encourage people to buy online.”  lol.

 G.I. Jane (1997)

Starring Demi Moore, Viggo Mortensen, and Anne Bancroft

Under pressure political powers that be try to integrate females into elite SEAL/C.R.T program.  Demi Moore is the female test subject admitted to the program even though everyone expects her to fail.

The workout program and Moore’s body in this movie are killer.  There is no way on earth I can watch this and shove food in my face. I should watch it every day.  Every time I see this movie it motivates me to change my eating and exercise more.  I honestly do really well for at least a week after seeing this movie.  Note to self, “Buy this movie and quit waiting for it to come on TV.”


Working Girl

Starring Melanie Griffith, Harrison Ford, Sigourney Weaver

When an overworked under appreciated Secretary’s idea is stolen she finds a way to circumvent her boss and succeed in business.

She works hard, she is smart, she uses her resources.  It motivates me to get creative.  Not every job is going to be easy.  Not every person you work with is going to look out for you or encourage you.  You have to find those who have your best interests in mind and surround yourself with them.

Last Holiday

Starring Queen Latifah, LL Cool J, Timothy Hutton, and Gérard Depardieu

When a hard working woman is diagnosed with a terminal disease she decides to spend the rest of her time and money doing what she has always dreamed of doing.  She cashes in her savings, quits her job and goes on a dream vacation.  She worked so hard but didn’t take any chances until it was too late.

The movie is inspires me to work hard, but to live life to the fullest.  Take chances, do the things you want to do.  Try new places, new foods, meet new people.  Life is precious and way too short.  Nothing is stopping me, go do it now.


Pollyanna (1960)

Starring Jane Wyman, and Hayley Mills,

My Mom used to watch old movies she loved as a kid with me and my sisters.  This was one of them.  I used to make fun of it, then I used to quote it, now I live by it.  This movie was based on a best-selling 1913 novel by Eleanor H. Porter.

Pollyanna comes to a small town and changes it for the better.  She looks for the good in everyone and everything and plays “The Glad Game.”  The Glad Game is simple.  You find something good about anything.  You burn your food?  The restaurant you to instead was delicious.  Your house is small and cramped?  You have a warm dry place to live.

It’s really simple, but it taught me to look at the good instead of the bad and life won’t be so bad.

These are just a few of the movies that motivate me that come to mind, I hope you watch them and find the life lessons I get out of them.  I really want to hear which movies motivate you.  Tell me in the comments!








Fall Date Ideas in Detroit

Fall Dating IdeasI’ve been meaning to write some new dating articles for a long time and I finally got around to it.  I wrote a new article for the  You can read it here…

More Fall Date Ideas not in the article:

Cook together

Open the window, let that crisp air in and make an apple pie or make some gourmet caramel apples.


You can play catch, maybe some two hand touch or go see a game.  For a twist on football, go watch a Rugby game.

What are your Fall Date Ideas?  I’d love to hear your suggestions for spots to hit in the Detroit area or anywhere in general.

Video Streaming Services: So Many Choices

Watching TV and movies used to be one of my very favorite things to do.  Then about 6 years ago I decided I watched too much TV instead if living life and it was just costing me too much.

I got rid of cable and didn’t look back.  Once in a while I felt left out when everyone was talking about the hottest show or something funny.  I still had my internet of course, so I looked up free TV options.  There were plenty!,,, etc… almost every TV channel offered some shows for free online.  I had to sit through commercials, but I was mostly listening while I worked and barely watched anything.

Then came the new wave of TV, Roku, Amazon Prime, Netflix, Blockbuster (are they still around?), and now Redbox.  I am now trying to figure out which ones I like and which are worth the money.  I’d love to hear your comments and suggestions.  Here is my opinion.

Roku: $49-$95 one time purchase

I had never even heard of Roku before I got roommates.  My roommate loved his and suggested I buy one. I happened to have an amazon gift certificate from Christmas so I bought the Roku 3, which is the newest one as of writing this.  It’s a box that plugs into your TV and for the one time purchase you can get free TV channels through your WiFi.   I’m very pleased with it.

You can also use the Roku to stream your Amazon Prime, your Netflicks, Redbox, Hulu Plus, etc.  There are even hidden free porn channels… shhhhhh.

Amazon Prime: $79 a year

Amazon Prime is more than just TV.  You pay a yearly membership fee at and you get to watch movies, TV shows, free 2 day shipping on any orders, as well as one free Kindle book a month, and more benefits you can read about on the site.  It’s $79.00 a year, making that $6.58 a month.  Which is cheaper than any other subscription with much more value. You can watch your prime online, or stream it through your Roku or smart TV.

They also offer movie purchases and rentals at an addition cost.

The only downfall is that you cannot pay monthly like the other companies, but this is the best overall option and my personal choice.  My parents feel they have a better selection of mainstream movies than the others as well.

Netflix: $7.99 a month

Certainly the most popular of the Video streaming companies right now.  It streams well with no buffering (In my experiences), and a simple easy to use webpage.  However many of the titles are B rated and straight to video selections as are Redbox, and Hulu Plus.  Netflix does offer some original content you can only get from their membership such as Season 4 of Arrested Development and Orange is the new Black.

You can get DVD’s in the mail for an addition cost, but its slow and costly.

Except for the limited original content Netlix has pretty much the same shows as the other video streaming companies.   I happily used them (a friend let me share his account.  Each account can stream on 2 devices at a time) for the last year, although I got bored with the same selections over and over.

Redbox Instant: $8 a month

Redbox has been putting video rental stores to shame for a while now, easy, cheap and a decent selection.  Now Redbox has moved into the video streaming business with partner Verizon.  It works almost exactly the same way as Netflix except you get 4 DVD credits every month with your subscription and the option to rent more recent videos online at an additional cost.

I was offered a 30 day free trial and of course I jumped on it to see if it was better than Netflix.  So far it seems to have mainly the same selection.  It’s a little difficult to browse their selections while streaming through Roku, PS3, or smart TV, but online was easier to browse.  The webpage is still lacking.  Their selection as far as I can tell is almost identical to the other streaming providers.  If I weren’t a fan of Prime I would choose this over Netflix for the simple fact that you get more features and the 4 DVD’s a month.

Hulu Plus: $7.99 a month

This is the one site I have not personally used.  I have frequented, but I have not used Hulu Plus monthly service yet.  Hulu seems to have a larger selection of current TV shows.

Candy Crush Addiction Top Tips

“Play this game called Candy Crush on Facebook”, they said.   “It will be fun”, they said.  I am now an addict.  I play one game to start my day, or sometimes five games.  I play one game of Candy Crush before bed, sometimes 10.  I’m not even going to tell you how much I play while I am on the phone on hold or while I am waiting for something to print or load.

Here are my best tips for you other addicts.

Candy Crush Tip #1

The special candy and how to make them.

Striped Candy:  You make the striped candy by getting any four colors in a row.  If your row is horizontal and you pull down the last candy to make the stripe then the stripe will have vertical stripes.  That means when you use that candy with like colors it will clear the row vertically (Up and down).  If you have a vertical row and move the remaining candy into position it will make a horizontal (across, the same as the horizon) striped candy.  When you use the horizontal striped candy it will clear the whole row across.

 Wrapped Candy: This candy is made when you combine two rows of the same colored candy.  When you get 6 candies of the same color together in the shape of a cross and pull the last one in it will make these.  Then when you combine them with 2 or more like colors they will explode like little bombs.  The bombs take out the surrounding candies. When you combine wrapped candy with Striped candy it creates a large bomb that takes out three rows vertically and 3 rows horizontally. Great for getting those hard to reach jellies off the board.

Color Bomb:  That brown candy with sprinkles appears when you get five candies in a row.  When you switch it with any colored candy it removes all that color from the board.  If you switch it with a stripped candy it turns all the color of the striped candy into striped candies and sets them off.  If you switch a color bomb with a wrapped candy it turns the color of the switched candy into little bombs all over the board.  If you switch it with another color bomb it becomes electrified and pretty much wipes the whole board.


Candy Crush Tip #2

The edges and corners are the most difficult to get rid of.  If you have to clear the jelly and its in those places, try to remove the edges and corners first because they have less opportunity to accidentally get removed by falling candies.  The bottom ones have the least opportunity of all, so start removing the bottom corners first.

Candy Crush Tip #3

When it is a timed challenge level  the +5 candies will give you an extra 5 seconds each, so use them as much as you can.

Candy Crush Tip #4

You can find a youtube video tutorial for almost every level of Candy Crush. So, if you get stuck go to and search for whatever level you need, such as “Candy crush level 197.”  Click search and watch the videos that look the most relevant, they can offer you specific advice on the level you need.